Arief August 26, 2013 4:07 pm

about all the above, but here's the long and short of it:Everyone brings soemnhitg unique and different to the equation. In situations where these differences are leveraged for the benefit of the group, the result is exceptional. Yes, there are going to be differences of opinion, and yes there is going to be conflict. The problems show up when leaders take sides on a personal or political basis, instead of treating the problems being worked on as the primary focus. This is a leadership problem, not a management problem. Leaders, lift the group out of the personal and into the reasonable and practical, inspiring confidence in their teams (regardless of age, sex, race, etc ) by encouraging the discourse rather than punishing those that engage in constructive debate. Sure there are limits that need to be applied, but that's where our personal responsibility kicks in. Poor leaders result in poor teams, with unhealthy dynamics. Fix the problem, find a better leader.If you truly believe there is are physiological differences, and I can't say whether or not it's soemnhitg that can be proven (not my field), then what can you learn from that? Isn't it just possible (probable in my book) that those differences can and should be leveraged for the benefit of improving how we conduct business? I know a lot of programmers don't want to admit it, but they are in business just like everyone else, and how you interact with peers, managers, and clients all results in your business success. My best programming partners have been women, I can't say if that's just luck-of-the-draw historically, or coincidence. I don't know, since it's just an observation. I've found I can work a little easier with them. My area of expertise is in back end data and process and I'm naturally very process oriented. My better partners have generally been more results oriented and as such have provided a balancing point-of-view. I've seen the opposite combination in other teams. Are some people not suited to work with one another? Sure? Who's fault is that though? Consider what concepts you are willing to stand up on and how solid they are, before you discount someone else just because their idea is different . Different isn't necessarily wrong.